When it comes to confidence, we’ve been told to focus on the wrong things, for the wrong reasons, and at the wrong time—
and then blamed ourselves when none of it has helped.
(which, ironically, lowers our self-esteem even further, damning us to the “why am I like this?!” downward spiral we’re all so familiar with.)
There’s nothing wrong with you. It’s not you, it’s the advice. Because guess what?